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Resources

This list of resources includes books, podcasts, videos, courses (and more) on self-development, relationships, trauma healing, addiction recovery, anti-racism/anti-bias work, and decolonizing healing. 

I have engaged with virtually everything in this list to some degree or another, but please note that I am surely missing many important resources, including others I have learned from. Please also consider that these resources are reflective of my one personal experience, leanings, and biases and they will likely change/expand as I continue on my learning journey.

Self- & Relationship Development (General)

These resources touch on a wide range of self-development and relationship topics, including anxiety, grief, emotional resilience, boundaries, attachment, sex, and more.

Books

The Power of Attachment: How to Create Deep and Lasting Intimate Relationships, Dianne Poole Heller

In The Power of Attachment, Dr. Diane Poole Heller, a pioneer in attachment theory and trauma resolution, shows how overwhelming experiences can disrupt our most important connections ― with the parts of ourselves within, with the physical world around us, and with others. The good news is that we can restore and reconnect at all levels, regardless of our past.

Belonging, Toko-pa Turner

Feel like you don’t belong? You’re not alone. The world has never been more connected, yet people are lonelier than ever. Whether we feel unworthy, alienated, or anxious about our place in the world – the absence of belonging is the great silent wound of our times. With her signature depth and eloquence, Toko-pa maps a path to Belonging from the inside out. Drawing on myth, stories and dreams, she takes us into the origins of our estrangement, reframing exile as a necessary initiation into authenticity. 

The Wild Edge of Sorrow: Rituals of Renewal and the Sacred Work of Grief, Francis Weller 

Noted psychotherapist Francis Weller provides an essential guide for navigating the deep waters of sorrow and loss in this lyrical yet practical handbook for mastering the art of grieving. Through moving personal stories, poetry, and insightful reflections he leads us into the central energy of sorrow, and to the profound healing and heightened communion with each other and our planet that reside alongside it.

Nonviolent Communication: A Language of Life, Marshall B. Rosenberg

What is Nonviolent Communication?  Nonviolent Communication is the integration of four things: • Consciousness: a set of principles that support living a life of compassion, collaboration, courage, and authenticity • Language: understanding how words contribute to connection or distance • Communication: knowing how to ask for what we want, how to hear others even in disagreement, and how to move toward solutions that work for all • Means of influence: sharing "power with others" rather than using "power over others."

Come As You Are: Revised and Updated: The Surprising New Science That Will Transform Your Sex Life, Emily Nagoski

Countless women have learned through Nagoski’s accessible and informative guide that things like stress, mood, trust, and body image are not peripheral factors in a woman’s sexual wellbeing; they are central to it—and that even if you don’t always feel like it, you are already sexually whole by just being yourself. This revised and updated edition continues that mission with new information and advanced research, demystifying and decoding the science of sex so that everyone can create a better sex life and discover more pleasure than you ever thought possible.

Polysecure: Attachment, Trauma and Consensual Nonmonogamy, Jessica Fern

Attachment theory has entered the mainstream, but most discussions focus on how we can cultivate secure monogamous relationships. What if, like many people, you’re striving for secure, happy attachments with more than one partner? Polyamorous psychotherapist Jessica Fern breaks new ground by extending attachment theory into the realm of consensual nonmonogamy. 

Podcasts

RECLAIM Podcast (Thaís Sky)

RECLAIM is a podcast for women by women on conversations that matter. Life coach, writer, and teacher Thaís Sky explores what it means to be human in this messy world. Thaís is often joined by incredible women who offer a vast array of expertise and wisdom in the realms of spirituality, self-development, relationships, money, worthiness, politics, womanhood, psychology, entrepreneurship, sex, social justice and more. 

Brené with Dr. Susan David on The Dangers of Toxic Positivity, Part 1 (Dare to Lead Podcast)

Brené with Dr. Susan David on The Dangers of Toxic Positivity,  Part 2 (Dare to Lead Podcast

Brené Brown speaks with guest Dr. Susan David, author of the bestselling book, Emotional Agility: Get Unstuck, Embrace Change, and Thrive in Work and Life on how emotional granularity and agility benefit us as individuals and as leaders.

Unlocking Us Podcast (Brené Brown)

Conversations that unlock the deeply human part of who we are, so that we can live, love, parent, and lead with more courage and heart.

We Can Do Hard Things Podcast (Glennon Doyle)

Description by Glennon: On We Can Do Hard Things, my sister Amanda and I will do the only thing I’ve found that has ever made life easier: We will drop the fake and talk honestly about the hard. Each week we will bring our hard to you and we will ask you to bring your hard to us and we will do what we were all meant to do down here: Help each other carry the hard so we can all live a little bit lighter and braver, more free and less alone.

Where Should We Begin? Podcast (Esther Perel)

Step into iconic couples therapist Esther Perel's office and listen as real couples anonymously bare the raw, intimate, and profound details of their story. From infidelity, to sexlessness, to loss, it's a space for people to be heard and understood. It's also a place for us to listen and feel empowered in our own relationships. So.. where should we begin?

Love with Integrity Podcast (Silvy Khoucasian)

Host Silvy Khoucasian is a relationship coach who focuses on boundaries and relationship-oriented issues. Podcast episodes include topics such as: how to maintain the spark in long-term relationships, how to recover from codependency, how to create healthy boundaries, and more.

Dateable Podcast (Yue Xu and Julie Krafchick)​

Your insider's look into modern dating. Listen in as Yue Xu and Julie Krafchick talk with real daters about everything from sex parties to sex droughts, date fails to diaper fetishes, and first moves to first loves. 

Online Courses

Healing Anxious Attachment Online Course (Heirloom Counseling)

This educational course explains what anxious attachment is, where it comes from, and why we have it; discusses the foundational tools needed to heal anxious attachment; provides scripts and suggestions for healthy communication in relationships to reduce anxious attachment experiences; and provides downloadable worksheets full of practices to increase self-soothing, resilience, self-esteem, and boundary-setting. 

Understanding Avoidant Attachment Online Course (Heirloom Counseling)

This course explains the origins of avoidant attachment and what is required to heal avoidant attachment triggers and responses; explores how partners, family, and friends can support people with this style to increase communication and openness; provide concrete tools and suggestions to manage moments of disconnection in your relationships in a way that will promote long-term health, intimacy, and connection; and provides guidance for reducing fight/flight/freeze/fear responses. 

The Boundaries Program (Bryan Reeves & Silvy Khoucasian)

Participants of this course will learn how to have clear, healthy boundaries; understand the "3 Core Fears" that can prevent us from creating and honoring our boundaries; specific language we can use to stand up for our boundaries without disempowering anyone; and more. 

Instagram

@silvykhoucasian

Silvy Khoucasian writes, speaks, and offers support on intimate relationships and boundaries.

@minaa_b

Minaa B. is a therapist, wellness coach, and self-care and mental health educator.

@estherperelofficial

Esther Perel is an author and sex therapist.

Trauma Healing

Collectively, these resources explain how trauma develops and impacts individuals’ bodies, minds, and relationships; and provide tools, resources, and therapeutic frameworks for the healing of trauma. Includes resources for practitioners who are looking to become more trauma-informed in their work with clients.

Books

Healing Developmental Trauma, Laurence Heller & Aline LaPierre

This book is written for those working to heal developmental trauma and seeking new tools for self-awareness and growth. It explains that an impaired capacity for connection to self and to others and the ensuing diminished aliveness are the hidden dimensions that underlie most psychological and many physiological problems.

Somatic Internal Family Systems Therapy, Susan McConnell

Somatic Internal Family Systems Therapy introduces a new therapeutic modality that blends principles of somatic therapy – like movement, touch, and breathwork – with the traditional tools of the Internal Family Systems framework. Broadening the benefits and applications of the IFS model, author Susan McConnell introduces 5 core practices that mental health professionals can apply to their practice: somatic awareness, conscious breathing, radical resonance, mindful movement, and attuned touch.

The Body Keeps the Score: Brain, Mind, and Body in the Healing of Trauma, Bessel van der Kolk

Dr. Bessel van der Kolk, one of the world’s foremost experts on trauma, has spent over three decades working with survivors. In The Body Keeps the Score, he uses recent scientific advances to show how trauma literally reshapes both body and brain, compromising sufferers’ capacities for pleasure, engagement, self-control, and trust. He explores innovative treatments – from neurofeedback and meditation to sports, drama, and yoga – that offer new paths to recovery by activating the brain’s natural neuroplasticity.

The Power of Attachment: How to Create Deep and Lasting Intimate Relationships, Dianne Poole Heller

In The Power of Attachment, Dr. Diane Poole Heller, a pioneer in attachment theory and trauma resolution, shows how overwhelming experiences can disrupt our most important connections ― with the parts of ourselves within, with the physical world around us, and with others. The good news is that we can restore and reconnect at all levels, regardless of our past.

Transforming The Living Legacy of Trauma: A Workbook for Survivors and Therapists, Janina Fisher

Dr. Janina Fisher, international expert on trauma, has spent over 40 years working with survivors, helping them to navigate their journey. In Transforming the Living Legacy of Trauma, she shows how the legacy of symptoms helped them survive and offers: Step-by-step strategies that can be used on their own or in collaboration with a therapist; Simple diagrams that make sense of the confusing feelings and physical reactions survivors experience; Worksheets to practice the skills that bring relief and ultimately rejuvenation.

My Grandmother's Hands: Racialized Trauma and the Pathway to Mending Our Hearts and Bodies, Resmaa Menakem

In this groundbreaking book, therapist Resmaa Menakem examines the damage caused by racism in America from the perspective of trauma and body-centered psychology. My Grandmother's Hands is a call to action for all of us to recognize that racism is not only about the head, but about the body, and introduces an alternative view of what we can do to grow beyond our entrenched racialized divide. This book offers a step-by-step healing process based on the latest neuroscience and somatic healing methods, in addition to incisive social commentary.

Waking the Tiger, Peter Levine

Waking the Tiger normalizes the symptoms of trauma and the steps needed to heal them. People are often traumatized by seemingly ordinary experiences. The reader is taken on a guided tour of the subtle, yet powerful impulses that govern our responses to overwhelming life events. To do this, it employs a series of exercises that help us focus on bodily sensations. Through heightened awareness of these sensations trauma can be healed. 

When the Body Says No, Dr. Gabor Mate

In this accessible and groundbreaking book – filled with the moving stories of real people – medical doctor and bestselling author Gabor Maté shows that emotion and psychological stress play a powerful role in the onset of chronic illness, including breast cancer, prostate cancer, multiple sclerosis and many others, even Alzheimer's disease. 

Polyvagal Exercises for Therapists and Clients: 50 Client-Centered Practices, Deb Dana

Deb Dana provides therapists with a grab bag of polyvagal-informed exercises for their clients, to use both within and between sessions. These exercises offer readily understandable explanations of the ways the autonomic nervous system directs daily living. They use the principles of polyvagal theory to guide clients to safely connect to their autonomic responses and navigate daily experiences in new ways. 

Podcasts

Transforming Trauma Podcast (NARM Training Institute)

This podcast explores the NeuroAffective Relational Model (NARM), a revolutionary healing approach for healing Complex Trauma (C-PTSD) and restoring connection to self and others. Whether you are a healthcare professional, an educator, a public policy maker, a trauma survivor, or someone interested in personal healing and social justice, Transforming Trauma will provide you with a map for increased resiliency, greater health outcomes, healthier relationships, personal growth and social change. 

Conversations with a Wounded Healer Podcast (Head/Heart Therapy)

Host Sarah Buino developed this podcast to shine a light on how countless people in caring professions are on a parallel healing journey along with their clients, attending to their own humanity while caring for others. It’s about conversations and community building, what we can learn from each other, and how we can help heal each other.

Videos

The Healing Trauma 3-Part Video Training (Irene Lyon)

Learn more about healing trauma from nervous system expert Irene Lyon in this FREE video training. 

Irene Lyon (YouTube Channel)

Irene Lyon, MSC. and nervous system expert, teaches people around the world how to work with the nervous system to transform trauma, heal body and mind, and live full, creative lives. 

Online Courses, Classes & Communities

Rooted Global Village

The Rooted Global Village is a "virtual village" that is about "healing the human family and co-imagining new ways of being." They are "raising awareness of trauma imprints and healing through the body, Creating an Ecology of care." Those who join get access to tons of resources, including live workshops, community events, and recordings of past conference talks. 

The Wisdom of Trauma

The Wisdom of Trauma is a beautiful film providing education and stories about trauma featuring Dr. Gabor Mate. The two times they broadcast the film online, they also had their Trauma Talks series full of amazing talks with trauma experts and others. I'm not sure if it's possible to still purchase the recordings of the talks, but for now I'll leave you with their list of resources: https://thewisdomoftrauma.com/resources/

Trauma Aware Care

Trauma Aware Care creates courses, resources, and tools to support practitioners as well as survivors in their healing journey. They are in the midst of rebuilding their courses and website, but you can sign up for their email list to stay in the loop for new content. 

Instagram

@traumaawarecare

This account provides trauma-informed support for practitioners and survivors from a registered therapist (Andrea Papin).

@jordanpickellcounselling

Jordan Pickell is a trauma and relationship therapist who writes about boundaries, self compassion, and reciprocal relationships.

@decolonizingtherapy

Dr. Jennifer Mullan is an ancestral and ITTM trauma healer, psychologist, and “The Rage Doctor.”

@iamthaissky

Thais Sky is a coach for women healing their worthiness wound, associate therapist, mentor for depth coaches host of RECLAIM podcast, and writer about being a messy human.

@dr.marielbuque

Dr. Mariel Buque is a holistic psychologist and intergenerational trauma expert. 

@mswjake

Jake Ernst is a therapist, writer, and the Clinical Director at https://www.straightuphealth.ca/ 

@latibulecounseling

Mily Gomez is a trauma therapist who works with the mind and body connection. 

Somatic (Body-Based) Healing

While many of the resources in the Trauma Healing section take into account the mind-body connection as it relates to trauma and healing, these resources have a stronger focus on somatic (or body-based) healing methods, including movement, yoga, breathwork, neurosensory exercises, and more.

Books

Attachment-Based Yoga & Meditation for Trauma Recovery, Deirdre Fay

This book offers an unprecedented, attachment-informed translation of yogic philosophy to body-based trauma treatment. Organized around key trauma issues and symptoms, this book offers clinicians a practical but far-reaching look at mind-body skills and techniques for helping trauma clients access their individual wisdom, develop secure internal attachment, and find the path home to the Self.

Podcasts

Jane Clapp (Resources)

Jane Clapp is a mindful strength and movement coach, an embodiment educator, and a Jungian analyst in training. Her resources page includes podcast interviews on movement therapy for trauma recovery and more.

Online Courses & Classes

NeuroAffective Touch®: A Somatic Toolkit for Healing Emotional & Relational Trauma course

This course includes NeuroAffective Touch Somatic Contemplations™ and offers participants an experience of how somatic psychotherapy interfaces with mindfulness and embodiment practices.

Breathwork Healing

In Breathwork Healing’s breathwork sessions, you’ll learn a circular breathing technique coupled with a powerful set of music designed to empower you into healing. During your Breathwork session, awaken to an elevated state of breath and consciousness where you are able to break through these old patterns and connect to the inner guidance, clarity and trust that resides within you. 

Irene Lyon (Programs)

Irene Lyon’s programs focus on healing at the nervous system level. Her 21 Day Nervous System Tune-up is a self-study virtual training program that blends neuroscience with neurosensory exercises to spark up your nervous system powers by helping you discover the mind-body-environment connection. SmartBody SmartMind is a 12-week online group program that focuses on restoring nervous system regulation through polyvagal-informed education, practical neurosensory exercises, and interactive support. 

Mindfulness & Meditation

Apps

Insight Timer

A free app for sleep, anxiety, and stress. Includes thousands of guided meditations, live yoga videos, sleep meditations and music, and more.

Online Courses & Classes

Life-Force Academy (Jai Dev)

Includes various courses and classes on kundalini yoga, etc.

Addiction Recovery

My particular experience with addiction recovery has been with alcohol. Also, I took a non-abstinence approach (although I ultimately did stop drinking – I'm 558 days alcohol free at the time of writing, on October 22, 2021), which may or may not resonate with folks. 

Books

Never Enough: The Neuroscience and Experience of Addiction, Judith Grisel

From a renowned behavioral neuroscientist and recovering addict, this is a rare page-turning work of science that draws on personal insights to reveal how drugs work, the dangerous hold they can take on the brain, and the surprising way to combat today's epidemic of addiction.

Podcasts

This Naked Mind Podcast (Annie Grace)

Bestselling author Annie Grace invites you to explore the role of alcohol in our lives and culture without rules, pain, or judgement. Join Annie and hundreds of others as they share their real, honest and open stories about the role of alcohol in their lives and how they found their freedom and regained control.

Videos

"Never Enough: The Neuroscience and Experience of Addiction" (recorded talk by Judith Grisel, Ph.D.) 

Behavioral neuroscientist and recovering addict Dr. Judith Grisel explains how drug/alcohol addiction develops in the brain.

Online Courses & Communities

This Naked Mind (Programs)

This Naked Mind provides a variety of paid online programs and free resources related to alcohol addiction recovery, including a free 30-day Alcohol Experiment, The Path online course, and more.

This Naked Mind Community

"Our mission is to discuss the role of alcohol in our lives openly, honestly and without judgement. No matter where you are on your journey; if you love to drink but are 'sober-curious', if you are moderating and loving (or hating) it or if you no longer drink you are welcome here. This group is a friendly, safe, honest and best of all fun place to talk about your hopes, inspirations, fears, regrets; anything that comes to mind."

Alcoholics Anonymous (AA)

"Alcoholics Anonymous is an international fellowship of men and women who have had a drinking problem. It is nonprofessional, self-supporting, multiracial, apolitical, and available almost everywhere. There are no age or education requirements. Membership is open to anyone who wants to do something about his or her drinking problem."

*I feel I would be remiss to not mention AA, because I have heard it's been an important resource for others. I attended one Zoom community meeting, and ultimately decided not to continue, but I could see how being in community with others who understand on that deep level might be really helpful for some folks.

Anti-Racism/Anti-Bias Work

Books

My Grandmother's Hands: Racialized Trauma and the Pathway to Mending Our Hearts and Bodies, Resmaa Menakem

In this groundbreaking book, therapist Resmaa Menakem examines the damage caused by racism in America from the perspective of trauma and body-centered psychology. My Grandmother's Hands is a call to action for all of us to recognize that racism is not only about the head, but about the body, and introduces an alternative view of what we can do to grow beyond our entrenched racialized divide. This book offers a step-by-step healing process based on the latest neuroscience and somatic healing methods, in addition to incisive social commentary.

So You Want to Talk About Race, Ijeoma Oluo

In this book, Ijeoma Oluo guides readers of all races through subjects ranging from intersectionality and affirmative action to "model minorities" in an attempt to make the seemingly impossible possible: honest conversations about race and racism, and how they infect almost every aspect of American life.

Podcasts

Good Ancestor Podcast (Layla F. Saad)

Layla F. Saad – a New York Times and Sunday Times bestselling author, anti-racism educator, and international speaker – hosts this podcast host on the topics of race, identity, leadership, personal transformation, and social change.

Inner Field Trip Podcast (Leesa Renée Hall)

Podcast description: If you're a Highly Sensitive Person or a Deep Feeler, your nervous system must be overstimulated just thinking about attending a protest, watching a video of yet another act of harassment or violence directed towards someone from an oppressed group, and trying to read or watch too many anti-bias resources too soon. My name is Leesa Renée Hall and as host of the Inner Field Trip® podcast, I hope that the featured conversations will inspire you to do activism in a way that is sustainable so you #StumbleBravely in your quest to stand on the side of justice and become a better ancestor.

Online Courses & Communities

Inner Field Trip community (Leesa Renée Hall, Patreon)

The Inner Field Trip is a community that helps sensitives and deep feelers explore unconscious biases so they protect their energy, stand on the side of justice, and become better ancestors. I've been a member for a few years now, and I highly recommend joining (especially if you're a highly sensitive introvert/empath like me).

Rachel Ricketts (Online Courses)

In Rachel Ricketts' Spiritual Activism 101 Online Workshop, participants dive deep into how to commit to authentic anti-racist efforts and get more comfortable with their discomfort addressing white supremacy and oppression. In the Spiritual Activism 102 Online Workshops, participants  continue the sacred and (secular) spiritual conversation required for radical racial justice (White/White Passing Folk) and healing our internalized oppression and racial trauma (BIPOC/mixed folx). And in the Radical Hope: A Healing How-To for Collective Action pre-recorded webinar, participants practice radical hope to contribute to collective action, cultivate compassionate care, and unpack their full range of emotions during these trying times. 

Instagram

@leesareneehall

Leesa Renée Hall helps Sensitives & Deep Feelers explore their biases.

@rachel.cargle

Rachel Cargle is a public academic, writer, and lecturer. Through her social media platforms, she guides conversations, encourages critical thinking and nurtures meaningful engagement with people all over the world.

@desireeadaway

Desiree Adaway is a consultant, trainer, coach and speaker building resilient, equitable, and inclusive organizations. 

@laylafsaad

Layla F. Saad is an author, speaker, and teacher on the topics of race, identity, leadership, personal transformation, and social change.

@teachandtransform

Liz Kleinrock is an anti-bias/anti-racist (ABAR) educator in progress, @learningforjustice award winner, and TED Talker.

@andrearanaej

Andréa Ranae is creating peace + sharing the process. She is the founder of Whole Self Liberation, an online school supporting people to find their unique way of making a difference in the world.

@theconsciouskid

The Conscious Kid focuses on parenting and education through a critical race lens. 

@emmanuelacho

Emmanuel Acho hosts the "Uncomfortable Conversations with a Black Man" series on his Instagram account and has authored the book by the same name.

@michellekimkim

Michelle Kim, "Your Queer Asian Auntie," is the CEO of Vision Awaken, "bringing you diversity and inclusion workshops that don’t suck."

@itsjiyounkim

i-youn kim (김지연) focuses on justice-oriented therapy for collective liberation. She does 1:1 coaching and counselling and is an "advocate for #ProcessingRage."

Decolonizing Healing

Books 

Braiding Sweetgrass: Indigenous Wisdom, Scientific Knowledge, and the Teachings of Plants, Robin Wall Kimmerer

Drawing on her life as an indigenous scientist, and as a woman, Kimmerer shows how other living beings—asters and goldenrod, strawberries and squash, salamanders, algae, and sweetgrass—offer us gifts and lessons, even if we've forgotten how to hear their voices. In reflections that range from the creation of Turtle Island to the forces that threaten its flourishing today, she circles toward a central argument: that the awakening of ecological consciousness requires the acknowledgment and celebration of our reciprocal relationship with the rest of the living world. For only when we can hear the languages of other beings will we be capable of understanding the generosity of the earth, and learn to give our own gifts in return.

Emergent Strategy: : Shaping Change, Changing Worlds, adrienne maree brown

Inspired by Octavia Butler's explorations of our human relationship to change, Emergent Strategy is radical self-help, society-help, and planet-help designed to shape the futures we want to live. Change is constant. The world is in a continual state of flux. It is a stream of ever-mutating, emergent patterns. Rather than steel ourselves against such change, this book invites us to feel, map, assess, and learn from the swirling patterns around us in order to better understand and influence them as they happen. This is a resolutely materialist “spirituality” based equally on science and science fiction, a visionary incantation to transform that which ultimately transforms us.

Online Communities

Rooted Global Village

The Rooted Global Village is a "virtual village" that is about "healing the human family and co-imagining new ways of being." They are "raising awareness of trauma imprints and healing through the body, Creating an Ecology of care." Those who join get access to tons of resources, including live workshops, community events, and recordings of past conference talks.

Instagram

@decolonizingtherapy

Dr. Jennifer Mullan is an ancestral and ITTM trauma healer, psychologist, and “The Rage Doctor.”

@decolonizefirst

Ta7talíya Michelle Nahaneem, Squamish leads workshops and workbooks to catalyse social change to transform colonial impacts.